How To

By Stephanie Ila Silver-Silberstein

***Warning*** Adult content. Inappropriate for readers under 18

Ok, prudes. I know you’ve all seen “The Rabbit” episode of Sex and the City, and yet the subject of vibrators causes a reversion to adolescent giggles and conversations that would make even the most timid bride bored to tears. Don’t even start with the words, “A friend of mine was wondering…” We all know who was really wondering. But with the internet making sex and product education easier than getting laid, there’s no excuse in not getting the best vibrator for your….er…educational needs.

So you want to learn about toys and sensual gadgetry in a fun and “innocent” way? Consider attending “Passion Parties” (http://www.passionparties.com), which are quite popular as an alternative to a traditional bachelorette party (but be honest now, did you ever need a real reason to buy Tupperware)?

The beauty of these types of parties is anonymity. Yes, your friends will not discover that
you and your hubby love wearing edible underwear. Once all of the products are described and their uses explained, guests work privately with the consultant to order and purchase their selections.

We all know how “safe” the internet can be (please wipe those smirks off your face). It really is a good place to get information on what you want. Dr. Linda R. Mona, Director of Research for http://www.mypleasure.com says, “Think about what makes you feel good during sexual experiences.” For example, what part of your body do you enjoy being touched? Then look for a toy that will enhance that experience.

Sex toys come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colors…just like your VS bra…and there is most likely something that will be appealing to your eye as well as what type of stimulation you desire. But I know some of you out there are still wondering if there’s a vibrator out there that coordinates with your Ralph Lauren bedding ensemble. Tsk, tsk. Have you paid a visit to babeland.com yet? Well, what are you waiting for? This site gives answers to all of your questions, from “how much do you want to spend?’” –the Babeland Bullet is only $14– to “how strong do you want the vibration to be?” — the Hitachi Magic Wand is plugged into the wall for a powerful pulse.

Looking for a G-Spot or Clitoral stimulation? Perhaps both (tsk, tsk again)?
It even suggests vibrators typified to your tastes: after all, the pink Rabbit Pearl was perfect for pretty and prissy Charlotte York, but perhaps you’re looking for something more sleek and er….more discreet? If so, check out the ultra hip Nea Vibe.

But note what type of material you prefer (i.e. silicone, jelly, rubber, plastic, etc.) and what, if any, allergies to such materials you may have. The last thing you want is turn this experience into the time you had to battle poison ivy…

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The Nea Vibe, the Wahl 7 in 1 and the Rabbit Pearl

http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/features/toy-finder

At Babeland, you can even find out which vibrator is so quiet that even
your roommate who has ears like Ray Charles won’t hear it (i.e. Wahl 7 in 1). And discover which vibrators won’t ever be discovered even at the airport (i.e. The Lipstick or The Ducky)!

http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/choose-a-vibrator/,

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A vibrator doesn’t need to be utilized solo: if anything, including your partner in the fun can work wonders for your sex life and your relationship, in general (you can thank me later).

Dr. Mona says, “Try talking to your partner about the possibility of using a toy and see if the two of you can reach a consensus about what you might want to try. This conversation is a great way to get the foreplay going!”

Double your pleasure with the Petal Ring that can be used by both participants during intercourse. Or stop your other half from channel surfing by handing over the remote to the Butterfly. As long as you don’t get visibly startled by a sudden vibration, you and your loved one could have some very private moments in some very public places!

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Petal Ring and Remote Butterfly

The best thing to keep in mind when finding your match made in vibrating heaven is to know yourself well, but still keep an open mind. Dr. Mona advises us to, “Remember that sex toys are used regularly by both men and women and provide you with a new opportunity for connecting with yourself and/or a partner.” So go ahead, discover your sexual favorites and dish out the scoop to your partner (who will thank you, or double your money back).

Or you can start your own blog and let the world go green with envy (using a pseudonym, of course!).

To learn how to use a vibrator, visit:
http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howto/howtouseavibrator.

Babeland Soho is located at 43 Mercer Street, New York, NY 10013
(212) 966-2120 Tel / (212) 966-2144 Fax

Babeland Lower East Side is located at 94 Rivington Street, New York, NY 10002
(212) 375-1701 Tel/ (212) 375-1706 Fax

Originally published September 2006
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